Calling A Bochur Of A Certain Age A Chosson, When He Is Not One At The Time

On pages 51-52 of the fine Yerushoseinu 5772 article on Rav Dr. Yosef Breuer z”l of KAJ by R. Yaakov Lorch שליט”א (which we drew upon here previously), there is a great story in a section about Rav Breuer’s מדת האמת (truthfulness).

It is related there that R. Yosef Schwab shlit”a, when he was a bochur, had learned shechita, and received a teudah (certificate) attesting to such from the shochet who had instructed him. However, he still needed to get kabboloh for it from a Rav. His father, Rav Shimon Schwab z”l, suggested that he go to Rav Breuer for that, which he did. When he showed Rav Breuer the teudah, which referred to him as HeChassan Yosef Schwab, Rav Breuer asked him if he was a chosson. When he replied in the negative, Rav Breuer exclaimed, No? Sheker, sheker! R. Yosef’s attempts to explain that that was a custom of people to call a bochur of certain age a chosson were to no avail. Rav Breuer was agitated, and repeated “This is sheker!”.

עד כאן the story, and now a thought that came to me.

There is a custom among some to call such bochurim for aliyos with the title chosson as well. I assume Rav Breuer z”l would strongly reject that custom, based on the above. Can anyone confirm?

In the zechus of being truthful, may we be zoche to a great new year.

Thanks to all for their support.

כתיבה וחתימה טובה – א גוט געבענטשט יאהר


2 Responses to “Calling A Bochur Of A Certain Age A Chosson, When He Is Not One At The Time”

  1. Ben Says:

    It’s not sheker if this is the minhag. I’ve heard that one calls an 18 year old up with the title chossen. Maybe it’s a way to inform everyone that he needs a shidduch.

    • Treasures of Ashkenaz Says:

      I realize that an argument can be made for the practice, as stated in the story above, but I like Rav Breuer z”l’s approach.

      By the same token, do you call every unmarried female of that age a kallah? 😉

מה אתה חושב? וואס זאגט איהר - What do you think?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: